It is important to recognize that funerals are for the living. Funerals help family and friends acknowledge the loss and take the first step in overcoming grief. A funeral brings people together at a time when they most need each other's care and support. A meaningful service tailored to the needs and desires of the family will be an important occasion for family and friends to remember the one who died and to share the experience together.
Funeral directors are caregivers and administrators. They make the arrangements for transportation of the body, complete all necessary paperwork, and implement the choices made by the family regarding the funeral and final disposition of the body. They coordinate with cemeteries, churches, clergy, florists, newspapers, musicians and other agencies. They also bathe and embalm the deceased, if necessary and prepare the body for viewing.
One of the choices we all face is how to provide for our final expenses. We cannot predict when we will need these final expenses, but we all will. There are many details and decisions associated with a funeral, and unfortunately, they come at a time when people are least able to manage them. Making decisions now for your final expenses will spare your family from an extra burden when they are least able to manage it. Pre-arranging a funeral is a secure and sensible way to make these decisions ahead of time.
When compared to other major life cycle events, like births and weddings, funerals are not expensive. A wedding costs at least three times as much; but because it is a happy event, wedding costs are rarely criticized. A funeral home is a 24-hour, labor-intensive business, with extensive facilities (viewing rooms, chapels, limousines, hearses, etc.); these expenses must be factored into the cost of a funeral.
Embalming sanitizes and preserves the body, retards the decomposition process, and enhances the appearance of a body disfigured by traumatic death or illness. Embalming makes it possible to lengthen the time between death and the final disposition, thus allowing family members time to arrange and participate in the type of service most comforting to them.
No. Most states, however, require embalming when death was caused by a contagious disease, when remains are to be transported from one state to another by common carrier, when there will be a public visitation or if final disposition is not to be made within a certain time frame. Embalming is not required for immediate burials or cremations.
The casket and cremation discount stores do not have a history of longevity in the business. Several people have purchased units from these stores and before they knew it, these stores were out of business. Because of their short lived existence, many people who have purchased products have had no product for their service. Casket and cremation retail stores also have limited suppliers for merchandise; therefore, they do not carry any liability agreement on units that may have already been purchased by the family.
Absolutely; there is nothing more special than the loving care and touch that a family puts into building the casket or urn for their loved one.
Whether you are preplanning for yourself or choosing for a loved one, a casket selection is a very personal decision. The casket should reflect the personality, life-style and taste of your loved one. Many caskets can be personalized through embroidery, engraving, changeable corners or memory pockets/drawers. The casket serves as your final tribute to your loved one's life.
Cremation is a highly personal choice. For some, it is a departure from family burial tradition. Choosing cremation is a reflection of an individual's beliefs and preferences. There are various reasons why people choose cremation over burial. These reasons range from environmental concerns to religious beliefs
Yes, you can have a funeral if you choose cremation. Cremation can take place either before or after a funeral depending on what type of service is selected. So, it is possible to have a viewing, funeral service and/or burial.
The body will be transported to the crematory in an alternative container (an unfinished fiberboard box) or casket selected by the family that is required by the state and/or crematory. During cremation, the body is exposed to intense heat (1400 - 2000 degrees Fahrenheit) for a period of two to three hours, depending on the size of the body. During this time all matter is consumed with the exception of bone fragments, metal casket hinges, jewelry or prostheses. After the cremation is complete, the cremated remains are allowed to cool and then removed from the cremation chamber.
What you choose to do with the cremated remains is a personal decision. Most people choose to have the urn buried in a cemetery or placed into a mausoleum or columbarium niche. Others choose to keep the cremated remains at home or scatter them in a meaningful location.
Deciding what will be done with cremated remains may help you decide what type of urn to select. An urn can serve as an important focal point at a funeral or memorial service. There are also urn styles that are especially appropriate when scattering is chosen. Though most people find it easier to select an urn at the same time as other funeral or memorial arrangements are made, an urn can also be purchased at a later time. When you choose an urn, you are creating a permanent memorial, one that reflects your loved one's character and your personal taste.